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How NOT to Get a Boyfriend

How to Dress, Speak, and Behave to Keep Single Men Far Away from You and Not Asking You Out on a First Date

By April Braswell

A humorous approach to learning about your dreadful dating dilemnas, and how to repair them for getting a boyfriend actually.

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Off the shoulder flirting glances


If you're one of the millions of single women who wants to get married and find a husband, and yet you don't have a boyfriend right now, you might find that you're guilty of a few of these mate selection massive mistakes. They are resulting in you're not getting a boyfriend. Here is some smart singles success strategies offered to you with a little tongue in cheek warm hearted humor so you can stop the results you have right now. Read on to discover how NOT to get a boyfriend, so you can change a few things you're doing and change your love results!

Dress Like You Don't Care At All About Attracting Men:
Keep Doing This And Really, They'll Believe You!

Whether you are a mature single woman who is post-menopausal and you find yourself having shifted into boxy tops and capri pants "because they're comfortable," or you're a 30s or 40s something single buinesss executive woman in your corporate power suit welding more power than a man in front of him confrontationally on a daily basis, or a 20s something young woman dressing so artsy avante guarde fashion that you're look is 100% edgy all day long, then you are distinctly sending to men the too clear a visual message that you don't care about attracting them.

This is the 21st century. I do want you to dress to please yourself first. And you can aim to dress in alluring and visually appealing to men manner at the same time. Really ladies, you can.

Instead, keep in mind that men are highly visually stimulated.

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Femmy Flattering V-Neck Dress


What does that mean for you?

It's easy to get their attention! Aim to strike the attraction activation note of being alluring. Think of this as meaning that you want to look "classy sexy."  That means your clothes should be feminine and indicate your feminine form. However, that does not mean that you need to have a super plunging neckline down to there with a dress hemline up to here!

Instead, look for dresses with ruching, pleating, or princess seams. Look for clothes that are a bit shaped in some manner.

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Ruching flatters femine curves

Avoid boxy tops and jackets. They diminish the inward waist movement of the female figure. Even if you are a bit thicker in the middle with an apple figure, ruching and some clever v-shapes in your fabrics can help to create the impression of the female ideal figure of the hour glass shape.

If you're a woman in your 20s and 30s, then wearing a crew neckline can be flattering and lovely on you.

However, if you're a woman in your 40s, 50s, and 60s, then sometimes the crew neckline is too sporty and practical looking on you.  Everything has sex appeal on us in our 20s.  We could wear a burlap sack in our 20s and our mating pulcratude would make us look hot anyway. Just if you are over 40 years old, really look in the mirror and think about how will look on me for the next few years.  Perhaps instead seek out a softly scooped or rounded neckline. Alternatively, the portrait neckline is very graceful and accentuates your female figure and flatters your bustline.


While You Are Out and About in Your Daily Routine, Do Keep Your Head Down and Absolutely Ignore All the Men Around You

So many single women ask me covertly, "April, where are all the single men?" Yes, you know, there is a 1 single location where we are hiding all the single guys and they are hanging out at this secret club with only one venue which we are keeping from you. Plus there is a secret password which I only share with my matchmaking clients. But all the other women know about it. If only it were that easy.

Well, it actually is.

In your daily life, there are in actuality tons of men all around you.  It's just that because you are not at a singles bar where they've already voluntarily identified themselves as being single guys, you don't know.  At the singles sites and bars, essentially the men there have placed a sign on their foreheads:

"Speak to me! I am single, available, and openly looking for a girlfriend and relationship. Shake my hand. Will buy drinks."

Which always makes me think of the Gary Larson cartoon about the mating call of different species, for humans it is, "Hey Baby, hey baby."

I digress.

Wear An Air of Expectancy Like Your Perfume

So what that means for you is that you want to both dress daily like you just might be meeting "The One" today while you are out about in your day.  Also, drape yourself and your mind with that positive mindset law of expectations with just a tidbit of EXPECTANCY. 

It's not you are looking and scanning the horizon too aggressively such that you are oblivous to those about you.  Au contrair! 

In fact, you wear an air of slight expectancy daily, searching and trusting that it's easy to meet men and he's out there. 

So, naturally, the people who cross your path each day, well, either one of them is him or the others might be intermediary channels via which you two will meet each other.  Your office acquaintance at work in the department upstairs who invites you to his holiday bash, naturally you accept the fun invitation and attend with just that touch of perfume of expectation that he might meet you here at this soiree this evening.

Meanwhile you are just as a natural course of life, having fun and enjoying meeting each marvelous unique person you encounter along life's path.

Keep your head up. Smile. Use breath mints, and aim to briefly and easily engage others in light conversation as you traverse your day. You'll be having so much fun doing so that when he does cross your path, he'll be magnetized by your smiling radiant essence to you that he can't wait to cross the room and meet you!




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